Being an ally means many things. It starts with reflecting on one's own identity, and on society's dominant identities. The next step is recognizing others' identities and the ways those identities are privileged or marginalized in society. Allies are willing to see these differences and to make an effort to promote equity -- eliminating "otherness" even while acknowledging difference. Allies do not speak for or over the communities they support -- they stand with them. It's hard, it takes practice, but it makes for genuine community.
The Community Toolbox is a service of the Center for Community Health and Development at the University of Kansas. This chapter covers a number of important topics to help people understand culture, diversity, and inclusion, and to be allies
this article by Gordon Nagayma Hall, PhD, Professor of Psychology is from University of Oregon's Office of Diversity and Inclusion. What's the problem with being "colorblind?" Professor Hall explains how it undermines diversity, equity and inclusion.
This article from Vanderbilt University describes a variety of gender inclusive pedagogical practices including how and when to ask students about their preferred names and pronouns (hint: not out loud in class on the first day). The article also includes helpful definitions.
'Ask Me': What LGBTQ Students Want Their Professors to Know from The Chronicle of Higher Education